Anger is both water and fire. It is not an easy thing to comprehend, but it is totally under our control.
More often than not, anger is directed at the self than at others. It is one emotion which hurts us more than it hurts others.
We are born in the purest form. That is our basic essence. We are born with the calmness of the universe. Space is calm, and yet every day new stars and planets are born and destroyed. So if our existence is like the calmness of the universe, anger is one of these galactic events. It is something that can explode and affect us, but we are far bigger than it is.
Anger is like a tiny ripple. If we are a large mass of water, this ripple can grow into a large wave and wreak havoc, but in the end it must subside into the calmness from which it sprung forth. So the disturbance is temporary, and we hold the key to allowing it to expand or contract.
Anger is also fire that burns everything in its path. At the same time, it burns itself. After it has run through its course of destruction, and exhausted the fuel that sustains it, calmness returns. It is us who control the fuel that feeds anger. Isn’t that something wonderful to realize?
Now that we know we hold the key, what can stop us from preventing the fuel from burning? We ourselves! We are always in control, no matter how helpless or disgusted we feel about our anger.
But how do we stop anger—the fuel—from burning? It is from the realization that it leads to pain and destruction. When we know we are falling prey to anger, we need to step back and look at what is happening to us. Only then we can restore calmness.